|"Oh, and pick up some Trojans while your out. Thanks honey."|
Heck, I may as well kick of the first "baby step" towards Christendom with one that is sure to offend.
This post is directed at men whose wives work outside the home. Prepare for tough love.
When I say you are a pimp am I just using hyperbole? Nope.
Is it really pimpin' to have your wife work outside the home? Yep.
Am I saying that it makes her to some degree a .... er uh... yep.
Am I saying it makes you less of a man? Yep.
Ask yourself this question:
"Why did my great grandfather not need to send his wife out to fish for a paycheck but I do?"
There are a dozen excuses you might give, but it is unlikely that any of them are valid. Which is why I don't think the statement "Stop Pimpin'" needs qualifiers attached. It's like saying the sky is blue. Well, sometimes it is purple during a sunset or grey during a storm, but in general, we don't need qualifiers every time we say that it is blue. Nevertheless...
Obviously some women are forced to take on the traditional role of men by working outside the home. My mother worked for a paycheck outside the home for all but my first 2 years of life. She was forced to do the job of a man because... there was no man around. You see it was the mid 70's and the flowery fields and the age of aquarius were calling... The man of the house just couldn't be tied down by the baggage of a wife and 4 kids. So there was no choice for my mother. And neither was she being pimped, for the simple fact that there was no man around. This situation is a valid qualifier, and there is no shame in a mother working in this situation. In fact, I respect my mom more than any living person for her courageous actions. She is a lioness not to be tussled with.
There are times of hardship where strange things need to be done. But we should still see them as being strange. Some people may find themselves starving so bad they are forced to eat shoe leather for instance. If it gets that bad for your family, I recommend your wife going out and bringing in a paycheck. Perhaps you become a paraplegic and your wife needs to provide the income. Notice the trend here? These are all extreme cases.
Many cases don't even need qualification, because they do not apply. Such as when a wife is working in the context of a family business. Selling beer at her husbands brewery, or bread from the counter of the family bakery, or driving a tractor mowing hay on the family farm... these are all situations where a wife's role as helper is being fulfilled, not ignored. By working within the husbands calling, she is working inside the home not outside of it.
So there are exceptions. There are some good reasons. Yours isn't.
Go ahead and try to say it is. Please, by all means, leave a comment and tell me how your wife has to work. How your children have to go to daycare. How you just simply have to have that second paycheck because things are more expensive now than they used to be... and after all we need two cars... and cable TV is really expensive... and we need to have vacations...
Please let's not kid ourselves men. (no pun intended) In nearly all cases, if our wives are being pimped out to bring back a paycheck, it is because we as men are simply chauvinist pigs who are too lazy to take the leadership role in the family. We could take charge, but it would mean a lot more hassle and responsibility for us. It is much easier to let the woman take over. What's that? She is over by the tree talking to a snake about an apple? Oh well, what can I do anyway? May as well let her eat it. It is God's fault for giving her to me anyway, not mine. I guess I may as well eat it too then. Perhaps she can sell apples and I can get a new Porsche with the cash? Sweet!
This is a chauvinistic view of wives because it treats them like objects, and it assumes that their role is not as good as the husbands role. This is the failure of feminism: it glorifies the (perceived) role of the husband and degrades the work of the wife in the home. Feminism tells wives that they are not as valuable as the husband if they are homemakers whose joy is to raise children and bake good bread. What a lie! Just as men and women physically have differences and neither is "better" (although I have my opinion about that), neither are the roles that we are designed for "better" or worse than each other. In fact I would say it is quite obvious that the hand that rocks the cradle in fact does rule the world. There is no greater calling on earth than motherhood. Which is why the greatest human creature who ever lived is a mother. By telling women they must leave the home in order to have fulfillment, feminism has told fish that they need to walk on land with 2 feet to have fulfillment. It is a lie which ironically despises women. Like calling baby killing "family planning", feminists call their hatred of women (and of the feminine) "women's liberation".
Why should Catholic men buy into this evil mentality? The world is totally lost when it comes to family matters now. So why should we assume we can do as they do and it is not going to end badly for us? Let us start to cherish and respect our women.
Do what I did in 2002. Tell your wife to quit her job and come home. If she is on contraceptives of any kind, throw them in the trash. Apologize to her for treating her like an object. Apologize for the children you just murdered, then go to confession.
Now that you are a man, you can begin to treat your wife like a fellow worker in God's vineyard, instead of treating her like an object to be used like the pimps of our culture treat their wives. Now that you are a king, you can recognize your queen for who she is. Overall, this is a baby step you will never regret. It will improve your marriage, and it will separate you from the worldliness that surrounds us in a real way.
Be a man, not a dog with a random leg: No more contraception!